High Maintenance, to Low Maintenance?

Before I became a mom ya girl was doing my hair every couple of months. Nails every couple weeks and shopping like things were going out of style. Then I became a mom and naturally all those things just didn't exist anymore.

Getting my nails done! It's been 4 plus years since I got them done.

But now as a mom of two I can see how that was a pro and a con. A pro in a sense I am saving money. But a con because those were ways I took care of myself and had some me time.

Learning to find the balance of it all can be sooo hard. And for someone like me, who solo parents a lot of the time, there really is no alone time to do such things.

Here's what I am now aiming for. MAINTENANCE. Period. I don't have to be doing all these things as much as I did before. But going without it is unacceptable. Like the saying goes, "you can't pour from an empty cup."

Let's face it though, if you're a mom, parent or caregiver you're probably thinking I can pour from an empty cup, and I do it all the time. And trust me I think that as well. But just because you are pouring it, doesn't mean that it should continue being that way.

From experience, if you keep pouring from that empty cup the burn out will come even faster. The dissapointment in yourself will keep coming and the thoughts of not doing enough will become even stronger.. If you yourself aren't getting your needs meet, in all honesty the other aspects of your life will be half-ass and in turn you'll feel it.

Enough about the negatives. Here's some of the ways I am aiming for the maintenance in my life.

1. Doing at least one thing for myself everyday

   Big or small do something for yourself. (showers don't count, lol) It has to be something that you enjoy. Getting coffee from your favorite shop, reading a chapter from a book, watching a youtube video or even taking that 15 minute nap.

2. Getting ready for the day!

   NO. I don't mean you have to do it every single day. But look good, feel good definitely holds true.

3. Have friends that are like family and make the time

   As hard as it is, make time to get out or spend time with your friends. It does wonders for your mental health. And all my friends know any plans we make 99% of the time my kids will be with me and they are ohkay with it!

4. Figuring out the YOU time

   I am most definitely enjoy the quiet of the morning time because let's face it once the night comes I am so tired I am ready for bed. In the morning I wake up I make my coffee and listen to relaxing music, do some editing or just watch a show until my kids get up.

5. Do what you can

   OHKAY, superhero. I know you can do it all but it doesn't mean you have too. There is only 24 hours in a day so pick and choose. It can be so hard not doing it all every single day, but like I said if you keep pouring the burn out will show up faster and faster. An example of this for me is if I don't want to do the dishes the night before I just don't. This is not an everyday thing, but if I need the break I take it.

6. Being present in the moment

   Life is crazy busy and if you are like me you are definately planning ahead. Here's your reminder to stop and take it in. Breathe in that fresh air. Enjoy that quality time with your children! Play and have fun! You are living your life too, don't forget that (:

LASTLY

Short hair! lol

7. STAY TRUE. STAY YOU.

   Throughout it all sometimes you will lose yourself and get lost. That is ohkay and a part of life. Just remember to always listen to your heart and mind especially when it is telling you what it needs. Being yourself through all the ups and downs and changes will help keep you steady. And know Dr. Seuss said"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."
   

All in all. You're not alone in anything in life. It might seem like no one can relate or compare, but there is some part that someone can connect too. Life is a rollercoaster, so enjoy the ride and have your family and friends come along. Find that balance that works for you and don't be so hard on yourself. You are living your life for the first time too!

Sending you lots of light, love and support! Have a great week!<3